The hole in my heart is sacred and it can never ever be filled. But it can be and it is, covered with love. It needs to be protected because it is so very sacred and special to us. Cole is so sacred and special to us. By covering the hole that losing him has created with love we are protecting his memory and making new memories to share him, share what his life is about, with others. "So you protect it and grow"... oh how true this is. Growing, changing, becoming more empathetic and compassionate, helping others...all of this is growth that builds love.
These parents are so right... our job as those left behind after a loss is to make our hearts bigger then the loss. You can't live your life in the past or in the tragedy. You can't focus only on what is gone. You must carry on through love. There is only one way to do that... you have to make your decisions out of love...to live your life with such love for others...for all others...that nothing can get into that hole that is left behind and dig it deeper and deeper.
Love really is the answer.